Saturday, January 3, 2009

Don't sweat the small stuff

That's not something I'm good at. I sweat everything. Especially when it comes to my kids.

I've recently had some issues with my teenager. Nothing major, really. To most people, maybe. They are feeling huge to me though. It is driving me crazy that he won't just listen to my advice. Why must he learn everything the hard way when I've already been through this. I know how the song ends! I also wonder why people don't talk about these struggles? You hear about how hard the sleep deprivation is when you have a new born. Women across the globe discuss diaper rash, potty training, weaning and sleeping woes. I regularly read over 50 'mommy blogs' and I count the number of posts on teenagers on one hand.

Why don't we want to talk about how hard it is to make a teen do their homework if they just don't give a rats ass about Biology? Or the heartbreak you feel when you realize they have lied to you? again! Then there is the protectiveness that comes out when some girl breaks his heart?

Or maybe we do hear them, and we don't listen any more than that teen. Surely I can do a better job and my teen won't rebel. I'll keep the lines of communication open, that is the key.

I've been feeling so helpless and angry and disappointed the last few days. Really everything it is hard to admit to as a mom. I've been wondering where I went wrong. Is he going to go to college and turn out ok? How much more heartache does he have in front of him? Will I make it the remaining 18 months to graduation?

Then I read about the Travolta's losing their son. Jett Travolta was less than 2 months older than my own son. I bet his parents would give anything to be stressing over the normal teen issues today.

It really puts everything into perspective. I'm going to try harder to not sweat the small stuff. I need to put my problems in the Lord's hands and remember I don't have to have to understand or control everything.


ChloƩ said...

((((hugs)))) teenage is definitely a tough time, and it has nothing to do with your ability to be a good parent: even the best parent will have a hard time, I'm sure! As long as you "keep the lines of communication open", as you said, I'm sure you'll be fine! Hang in there!!

mom24in04 said...

That was very well said Crecia. I have been having a lot of those same feelings recently. It is just so hard! Thanks for putting some perspective back into it.

AnneYarbs79 said...

Can you promise you will still be blogging 10 years from now, so I can read and learn what to do to survive. Already stressing and my oldest is just 6!

Recovering procrastinator said...

Sorry you're having such a hard time, but I know he's going to grow up to be a wonderful adult. Good luck on not sweating the small stuff. I have no advice there. Shocking, right?

And I bet you don't read a lot of stuff about teens on blogs because most bloggers are young-ish with young kids. In 10 years, there might be more teen-parent-angst than you can stand!